Clayton Brandt Talks About Marriage
Sabbath services on March 7, 2015 began with an introit by JD and Poline (9th graders) on the piano. There followed a song service led by Heidi (junior) and Dyaine (9th grader), accompanied on the piano by Poline and JD (9th grader). The opening song was “Happy the Home”. Clayton Brandt welcomed everyone, had prayer, and read Psalm 127:1 “« A Song of degrees for Solomon. » Except the LORD build the house, they labour in vain that build it: except the LORD keep the city, the watchman waketh [but] in vain.”
Kamia (9th grader) then read a mission story and called for the offering. Adiv (9th grader) and Heidi (junior) collected the Laurelbrook Missions Offering, which helps pay the expenses of Laurelbrook-sponsored mission trips.
Clayton Brandt then had the superintendent’s remarks and had closing prayer. The congregation then became three Sabbath School classes, one taught by Clifton Brandt in the church sanctuary and one taught by Rick Carr in the nearby boys’ dorm lobby.
Following are a few notes from the superintendent’s remarks on marriage by Clayton Brandt:
Following are some notes on the Sabbath School lesson “Behind the Mask” taught by Clifton Brandt:
- Nothing will affect your future happiness in this life more than your selection of a wife or husband.
- If the Lord is not in the future home, the partners labor in vain to make a happy home.
- Commit yourselves to God, the basis of true happiness.
- Looks are not everything in choosing a marriage partner.
- Give yourself time to make a choice of a marriage partner.
- Read the guidebooks – Messages to Young People, the Bible, Education, Adventist Home.
- Ellen White said in Vol. 5 of the Testimonies that if you want a home where the shadows are never lifted, don’t marry someone outside your faith.
- Ask counsel of your parents before getting married.
- It’s best to save all physical contact until after getting married.
- Ephesians 5:22-25 “22 Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. 24 Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so [let] the wives [be] to their own husbands in every thing. 25 Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;”
- It’s a joy for wives to submit if husbands related to them as Christ does to His church.
- The woman wants love; the man wants affirmation (sex, etc.).
- Don’t expect perfection. Bring out the good qualities (the best) in someone.
- After marriage, read the Bible and the Spirit of Prophecy together. This bonds people together.
- Do something special once in a while to surprise your spouse.
- Some spouses like practical gifts like washing the dishes.
- As time goes on, romance wears off, but spouses should continue the early affections.
- Study 1 Corinthians 13, especially if you are thinking about getting married.
- Marriage is supposed to be the beginning of happiness, getting better and better and deeper and deeper as the years go by.
- There is nothing better than a good marriage and not much worse than an unhappy marriage.
Personnel Other Than Students:
- Christians are like rough stones taken out of a quarry to be shaped by the Master Jeweler, who is God.
- 1 Corinthians 2:1-7 “1 ¶ And I, brethren, when I came to you, came not with excellency of speech or of wisdom, declaring unto you the testimony of God. 2 For I determined not to know any thing among you, save Jesus Christ, and him crucified. 3 And I was with you in weakness, and in fear, and in much trembling. 4 And my speech and my preaching [was] not with enticing words of man’s wisdom, but in demonstration of the Spirit and of power: 5 That your faith should not stand in the wisdom of men, but in the power of God. 6 ¶ Howbeit we speak wisdom among them that are perfect: yet not the wisdom of this world, nor of the princes of this world, that come to nought: 7 But we speak the wisdom of God in a mystery, [even] the hidden [wisdom], which God ordained before the world unto our glory:”
- Paul didn’t come to the Corinthians as a brilliant speaker but as a person utterly dependent on God.
- 1 Corinthians 2:8-9 “8 Which none of the princes of this world knew: for had they known [it], they would not have crucified the Lord of glory. 9 But as it is written, Eye hath not seen, nor ear heard, neither have entered into the heart of man, the things which God hath prepared for them that love him.”
- God is preparing mansions and treasures for us that we have not an idea of.
- But this passage is talking about heavenly wisdom.
- Ephesians 3:8-10 “8 Unto me, who am less than the least of all saints, is this grace given, that I should preach among the Gentiles the unsearchable riches of Christ; 9 And to make all [men] see what [is] the fellowship of the mystery, which from the beginning of the world hath been hid in God, who created all things by Jesus Christ: 10 To the intent that now unto the principalities and powers in heavenly [places] might be known by the church the manifold wisdom of God,”
- Paul introduced himself to the Corinthians as the least of all the saints sharing the unsearchable riches of Christ to them.
- We need to behold Christ’s love, which is very hard for us to comprehend, and realize that Christ only saves us (but not in our sins).
- Colossians 1:24-29 “24 Who now rejoice in my sufferings for you, and fill up that which is behind of the afflictions of Christ in my flesh for his body’s sake, which is the church: 25 Whereof I am made a minister, according to the dispensation of God which is given to me for you, to fulfil the word of God; 26 [Even] the mystery which hath been hid from ages and from generations, but now is made manifest to his saints: 27 To whom God would make known what [is] the riches of the glory of this mystery among the Gentiles; which is Christ in you, the hope of glory: 28 Whom we preach, warning every man, and teaching every man in all wisdom; that we may present every man perfect in Christ Jesus: 29 Whereunto I also labour, striving according to his working, which worketh in me mightily.”
- When Christ lives out His life in us, God sees the Savior in us, not the hopeless sinner who we are.
- Proverbs 26:11-12 “11 ¶ As a dog returneth to his vomit, [so] a fool returneth to his folly. 12 ¶ Seest thou a man wise in his own conceit? [there is] more hope of a fool than of him.”
- 2 Peter 2:22 “But it is happened unto them according to the true proverb, The dog [is] turned to his own vomit again; and the sow that was washed to her wallowing in the mire.”
- The time to make a life correction is when you first realize you are making an error.
- Ellen White says that in order to go forth in life without stumbling, we need to have the assurance that Christ can keep us from falling.
Clayton Brandt – works with Laurelbrook’s heavy equipment / local church elder
Clifton Brandt –works with Laurelbrook’s sewer, water, and boiler systems / local church elder